Something about you makes you beautifully different from everyone else around you. It’s just 1 Thing that makes you memorable to everyone you meet. You are standing out in someone’s life in a good way. You are outstanding, but do you know it? Do you see yourself?
I want to help you see your true self by clarifying your value.
In this post, we discuss:
- What does value mean
- How value functions in your life
- Three steps to valuing yourself
What should value mean to me?
I don’t want to assume you understand what I mean when I say value. Take me, for example, I competed on the college speech and debate circuit where my debate rounds were judged by value criterion, and for four years, I never understood what they meant, yet I competed as though I did. To say the least, I was embarrassed to ask questions about what seemed to be such a simple word. The lack of understanding of the word value caused me to lose many debates. I am helping you avoid making the same mistake.
So, let’s start at the basics. A value is a belief that motivates you to think and behave a certain way. The values you hold are influenced by your family, friends, culture, activities, religion, and, quite frankly, anything you look up to. These values can be seen as non-negotiable sacred duties or factors to be weighed in decision-making, as in my debate competitions.
How does value function in my life?
Whether you’re conscious of them, your values are the driving force fueling every action you take. Knowing your core values helps you navigate where your life is going and to your purpose.
How do I value myself?
The first step in valuing yourself is understanding your life is not a fast race; it is a marathon. By that, I mean that growing to value yourself will take time, effort, dedication, and practice.
You may not be ready just yet to see your value, and that’s okay. Offer yourself grace for what you don’t know while asking God to fill you with the wisdom, knowledge, self-control, and patience to endure this journey.
You are actively participating in a mindset upgrade. It won’t be easy, but it is worth it.
YOU ARE WORTH IT.
The second step in valuing yourself is to become self-aware by acknowledging and accepting yourself just as you are now. To do this, here is an exercise:
- Write an affirmation list of all the things you love about yourself and what you’re good at.
- ex. “I love that I am…”
- Write an honest list of your room for improvement (aka weaknesses). Acknowledge and accept where you are. Everyone has to start somewhere, this list is your starting point in the marathon.
- Read these lists as a reminder of who you are and who you’re growing to become
The third step to valuing yourself is to stop comparing yourself to others, especially if you’re secretly hoping to have the life they have. Comparison is the thief of your joy; it serves no good purpose to beat yourself up about not being in the same position as someone else. Instead, use that energy to work on becoming the best version of yourself.
A bonus step in valuing yourself is focusing on your progress. When you track your progress from your starting point and create check-in points along the way, you can see how productive you are becoming. It is satisfactory knowing you are accomplishing your goals, which builds confidence in your ability.
Valuing yourself shows you that one thing that makes you different from everyone else around you.
When you find your value, don’t lose it.
It’s worth more than you can imagine.
With Peace,
Veronica Speaks
Veronica Speaks 
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