Veronica Speaks

Being engaged in intellectual conversations with my significant other is so sexy to me. I love the idea of being with a man who uses his brain to its fullest capacity. As an academic woman who values critical thinking and sound research, it is imperative that I marry a man who shares the same values. 

Sometimes, I have to fight not to be sensually aroused during the conversations because I love the intention, presence, and dedication that goes into learning. I often win over my lustful thoughts and can carry on in the conversation quite well. But, wow! I get so turned on. I can’t help it, especially when he’s passionate about the topic we’re discussing. 

Let me be clear, I do not operate this way in every intellectual conversation. Self-control is another value that I hold dear to my heart. Thinking these types of thoughts outside of conversations with my significant other is repulsive and inappropriate. Any man who is not my man is looked at as if they are my brother. I would never look at my brother like anything other than a brother, so those types of thoughts don’t cross my mind. 

Okay, back to the programmed conversation, and on a serious note, I can’t imagine myself marrying a man who struggles with forming a sentence, paragraph, and essay that is backed with peer-reviewed evidence. Valuing critical thinking and sound research shows up in our actions. Our actions impact every aspect of our lives and can influence the lives of those around us. I don’t expect my man to be a perfect, know-it-all, because I know I will never know everything. I strive not to be a hypocritical woman, understanding that it serves no purpose to expect someone to do something I am unwilling to do or can’t do.

Furthermore, in the future, I want to share parenthood with a man who desires to be a husband and father. I want to have children, and I want them to be able to come to us for educational help. I want them to be brought up in a household where excellent education is the standard because we embody it and lead by example. I don’t believe in the whole “do as I say and not as I do” parenting technique, where parents tell their children to do something that they themselves can’t do or won’t do. My children will be born into an experience where the union of two people values the pursuit of lifelong learning. 

Damn, I sound elitist, don’t I?

In my defense, I don’t require this competency for people whom I don’t view as potential partners. I am aware that not everyone shares my interest in intellect, and it is not necessary for them to. For someone I am committing the rest of my life to?! Yes, he needs to be intelligent in multiple areas.

While I’ve worked in Special Education and I, currently, work in Higher Education, I don’t want to teach my man basic knowledge that we learned in college. The only teaching I want to do is when we’re cosplaying age-appropriate teacher and student. He has to earn a good grade in my class. I’ll be sure to test all of his proficiencies and if he fails, then his punishment will be sufficient. 

I’m sorry, but an unintelligent man is such a turn-off. Some men are so physically attractive, then they open their mouths, stupidity flies out, and any ounce of attraction I had flies out of me. I wouldn’t dare engage my romantic and sexual intimacy with someone like that. Now, when I was younger?! I dropped the ball many times by engaging my energy with men who did not feed my needs. For me to be truly aroused, I need connection on an intellectual, spiritual, and physical level.  It sucks that it takes more for me to get aroused, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Now…where do I need to be so that these types of men find me? Let me know something! I’m being so serious right now. I am having the hardest time being attracted to men because so many are out of my comprehension bracket. Help a sistah out puhleaseeeee!