Who you let define you is to whom you give your power away. In the world of creating content online, too many people feel entitled to invalidating others. Let’s have just one convo at a time about defining yourself.
Who gives you your confidence?
To begin, your self-esteem is the foundation of your confidence. Having healthy self-esteem is accepting yourself and loving who you are regardless of your accomplishments, materialistic possessions, and your current circumstance in life. Essentially, it is an inner knowing of your worth and value.
Where you look to grow your self-esteem and confidence is who gains power over you.
For instance, let’s think about the people on social media who hide behind a screen and tear other people down. If you let your self-esteem sit in their hands, then they will uplift you one day and rip you to emotional shreds the next. As a result, your self-esteem is insecure and you’re always dependent on others.
Furthermore, it is easy to spread hate when you have an overflow of hate in your heart. I feel for the people who are in that unfortunate position in life. Personally, I couldn’t imagine using my intentional energy to hurt others. On the other hand, I am quick to share positive energy because I know the energy you put out into the world comes back to you sevenfold.
When you allow others to define who you are, you give away your personal power. There is no better feeling than knowing yourself and being confident in who you are.
Learn how to take back your power.
No one can define you unless you give them permission. This truth even applies to God. In order to allow someone to define you, you must agree with them. Here are some tips to reclaim your personal power:
- Write down a list of what you believe about yourself (both negative and positive)
- Create a safe space for yourself to express all your emotions
- Reflect on from where you learned those beliefs
- Create positive affirmations that challenge the negative beliefs you hold about yourself
- Learn how to forgive yourself
- Participate in the present moment
- Surround yourself with confident, supportive people
After incorporating some of the tips listed above, practice them daily. Day by day, you will begin to feel empowered and confident. The way you treat yourself reveals how you feel about yourself. How can you accept the care and love of someone else if you don’t feel worthy of being loved? More importantly, how can you share care and love with someone else if you don’t know what it feels like?
Your self-esteem and confidence depends on you. Of course, you don’t have to agree with what others say about you.
See yourself as who God created you to be
Our Father God is the Ultimate Creator. He created us with one universal purpose – to share love. Likewise, our greatest commandments are requirements of love:
36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
Matthew 22: 36-40
To put it another way, you are created to be a connection of love. What does that make you then? You are love in physical form. Basically, knowing who you are allows you to feel empowered and confident.
Allow God to define you.
If you allow God to tell you who you are, then no one can take that away from you. To expand, read this scripture Moses wrote in Numbers 23:19-20
19God is not human, that he should lie,
Number 23:19-20
not a human being, that he should change his mind.
Does he speak and then not act?
Does he promise and not fulfill?
20 I have received a command to bless;
he has blessed, and I cannot change it.
Simply put, God will not take back what He sees in you. God sees you as His child, therefore, as someone worthy of His love, grace, protection, guidance, and correction. Being a child of God is a fruitful experience. It is our way into His Kingdom.
God created our world so that we may have dominion, not over other humans, but to rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals,[a] and over all the creatures that move along the ground (Genesis 1:26).
God wants everything that is His to be ours.
Embrace your Godfidence.
Furthermore, I love that my confidence comes from God. My self-esteem and confidence does not depend on anyone but Him. More importantly, God will not switch up on me or you when we keep Him first in our lives.
Seeing myself through God’s eyes is the best prayer I asked for. Accordingly, by no means does seeing myself as God does mean that I am perfect. I am not. God sees our imperfections and deliver us with grace. While our spirit may be convicted by our sins and we feel the wrath of God from our wrongdoing, God never turns His back on us.
Allowing God to define who you are gives you Godfidence – an unshakable confidence given by God. Living on the solid rock of Jesus Christ is the most secure place one can be.
Join me in walking in Godfidence.
Veronica Speaks 
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